How do some people thrive in the face of adversity and others crumble? Recently I have been reflecting on what it is we do to live our best life. What is different about those who succeed against all odds versus those who make one tragic decision after another? I think that a lot of it has to do with recognizing that there is no easy way through challenging circumstances. There is no “easy button.”
I have experienced this in my own life. Those closest to me (and now all of you) know that I had my first son when I was 17 years old. By the time I was 22, I was married with three sons. By the time I was 29, I was divorced. However, because of a lot of grace from God to get me back on the right path and willingness on my part to make hard choices that required a lot of effort, I managed to also get a Bachelor’s Degree in Molecular and Microbiology (by the age of 26) and a Masters Degree in Public Health (at age 31).
I got remarried at 31 years of age and my current husband is a preacher (which after looking at my past history is still something I find
amusing). We have been happily married for 5 years, I have a full time job (and have since I graduated with my Bachelor’s degree) and my three teen sons are happy and doing well. This all did not happen by accident. You don’t become a teen mom twice and end up with a graduate degree without some serious sacrifices. It also didn’t happen by luck or because I earned any special favor. What it took was a laser focus on what I needed to do in the present to optimize my chance of a successful future. Did I always make all the right choices? Obviously not. Do a few wrong choices relegate you to a life of misery and poverty? No, they most certainly do not. However, if you continue to string together a whole bunch of bad choices, it will be much more difficult to dig yourself out of the hole you are creating.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be writing more about how to make the choices that will help you to find the success you are looking for. Will it be easy? Nope. Here is the secret though. Nothing in life that is worthwhile comes from taking the easy way. Romans 12:2 says, “…let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.” Join me as we discover a new way to think that will be life changing!